Welcome to Eugene Gift Circles. On this website you will find a description of how gift circles work, some of the reasons they are important both for you and the world, and a few links to other great gift economy resources. Enjoy!
Gift circles are community gatherings where each person shares what they want to give, and want to receive, and then we connect to make it happen without an exchange of money.
After a short introduction and check-in, we have a short silent time with pencil & paper for people to ponder what they might want to offer or ask for and make liststhis may be time, skills, goods, info, and more.
Some folks have a hard time recognizing what they can give, but we all have things to give. Think of what you love to give, what you are good at, not just at work, but with your family and friends. Think about what you have extra of that you could give away. Think about what tools and goods you have that you rarely use and could loan out. Think about what information you have that others would value. We go around the circle and give each person a chance to share what they would like to give to others, and each of us can also take notes when we hear an offer we might like to receive.
Next we go around and each person shares what they would like to receive. Again, we can all take notes. Ask for things that could make a real difference in your life. There are often areas where people think they cannot ask for help, or they cannot imagine how their community could help them, and yet with almost any need, your community can help. People have received car use, child care help, introductions to romantic partners, even help reclaiming a stolen car. If you have a need, there is probably a way someone can help. Ask for things that will reduce your dependence on money. Massages, food, car repair, carpentry, and more have been exchanged in gift circles. It’s great to ask for small or quirky things too. A button sewn on, a costume to borrow, someone to play backgammon with.
Next, we all go up to others with whom we would like to give and receive and set up connections to make it happen. Connections are not expected to be trades (though it sometimes works out this way), you may give to one person and receive from another.
Each time someone asks you to give them something, or you offer, we encourage you to check in with yourself, and see if this particular interaction feels right. You do not have to give something to an individual just because you were interested in giving in general. We encourage you to only say yes when it feels right, and if you do say yes to follow through. And in the rare cases when you cannot, communicate with the person as soon as possible. We are building a community of trust: No will not damage this trust, while saying Yes and not following through will.
We have an ethic of giving with beauty, excellence, and integrity. We treat our gifts to one another as more important than money, not less.
A couple of notes: most of our exchanges do not involve money, but there are a few exceptions. When you give a gift that costs you money to give, you can ask for a pass-through cost of materials, and still gift the person with your time and skills. This might be applicable with material for sewing, wood for carpentry, or mileage if you have to drive a considerable distance as part of the favor.
Also, if you are a person with much more money than time, you can voluntarily give money, either in appreciation for a gift you received, or simply to a person in the circle who needs it. This is about all of us having our needs met.
Feel free to e-mail Kim at email@example.com for with any questions or call 541-525-8324.
Gift Circles, and the larger Sharing Economy, giving because we care rather than because we are getting paid, has great personal benefit as well as the potential for creating a life changing paradigm shift for entire culture, Let’s talk about why.
Many of us live split lives. We have a caring, high valued life with our friends and community, but we both work, and purchase things in the world, in ways that disconnect us at best, and sicken us at worst. Gift Circles are a step towards reuniting our hearts with our work, and our receiving, so that all we do is give things we care about to people we care about, and receive what we need gratefully.
In times of economic restriction, like the present, there are often people who have great gifts to share, who are not giving them, and people who need those very skills. And the exchange never happens, because we do not have money to give ourselves the permission to do it. In the Sharing Economy, we take our power back, and we have full employment, there will always be a place for you to give your gifts. As we give and receive fully, there is the possibility of real abundance, rather than an artificial shortage in a world that has all we need.
Because of false values of independence, where we feel we should never need anyone, and always do it ourselves. This leads to many suffering in silence, when their community could easily meet their needs. As we practice asking for what we want and receiving it gratefully, we have the possibility of living in a world where everyone’s needs are met.
WHY NOT JUST USE MONEY?
It is certainly not bad to use and share money, and some form of money will probably continue to part of our lives. But because of the rules around money in our society, it is not a neutral means of exchange.
Money has interest attached, which leads to a need for more and more rather than a sustainable economy. Money unlike anything in the natural world, does not wear out over time, but grows. This leads to hoarding. There is no cost for most polluting, and for using non-renewable resources, combined with money’s other qualities, this encourages a pillaging of our natural resources. So the money economy is biased toward hoarding, desperation from not having enough, and the overuse of precious resources.
With an economy not centered on money, we can more easily build a sustainable world. For more on the story of money, check our Sacred Economics in our links section.
There is a more beautiful world, one with everyone who is willing has many of their needs met; where no one fears being homeless or going without food or medical care; where no one lacks the time to love a full life and have relationships; where we follow our dreams; where we create beauty and reach out into other parts of the culture and the world and give a helping had to make their lives better. And there is such excess around us, that this dream does not even require our government to make different and better choices. And it does not require the whole culture to come along.
However we cannot get all the way to this world ourselves, we must do it as a community. If enough of us make choices based on the truths of our oneness, the abundance of the world, and the goodness inside of us. We can live in this more beautiful world now.
What each of us needs to do is a little different depending on our place in life at this time. In this series we will look at the steps we each need to take to move back to the garden of Eden.
The Slacker has become a cultural hero. The person who does just enough to get by, and prioritizes hanging out and having fun over any kind of achievement. Some of you are thinking, “that is disgusting” and others, “right on!”. But which ever camp you are in, there are cultural forces, some of them based on accurate assessments of our culture, that have led to the slacker phenomenon.
Many of us, especially the baby boomers, grew up in a world that preaches the virtues of hard work. If we applied ourselves and did our best, we would prosper, be able to bountifully meet our material needs which would lead to happiness, and this would lead to our entire nation succeeding. And those of us with our eyes open have seen that this “gospel of work” had huge holes in every area. Companies would work us to the bone and keep the profits, and then not care a bit when they downsized us. The “progress” we were creating was destroying the environment and other cultures around the world. Money did not make people happy, sometimes the opposite. And many of us sat in jobs where what we did, did not matter to the well-being of the world, or sometimes our hard work would make it worse. Sometimes it seemed that almost every job was tainted in some way.
So enter the age of the slacker. Where many folks stopped caring about progress in any way. And prioritized, hangout out, friends, and good times. As we have detailed, there were large parts of the culture and especially the world of work where the slacker rationale made a lot of sense. And it did lead to more open time and actually opportunity to show up and enjoy life.
However as humans we have other needs as well, including the need to create. Each one of us in some way wants to make the world around us a little bot of a better and more beautiful place. And the slacking lifestyle often created no outlet for this giving creativity, often using pot and other chemicals to numb the empty feelings that came from not expressing ourselves.
And as we look towards a more beautiful world, all the rules change. The premise is this: If each of us within a sizable community shares the gifts within us, identifies our real needs (and lets go of the substitutes championed by advertising) , and treats others in our community, like a family or a tribe, not as individuals we are competing with; then we can all live beautiful lives, most needs will be met, and no one will have to overwork to do it.
On this path, every person matters. If you are not doing your part, giving the gift you have to give, not in a perfectionist overachieving way, but just in balance; then someone else will suffer. An important need will not be met. Someone else will have to overwork to the point of unhappiness to make up for the piece that you are not providing.
So it is time for going beyond slacking. For each one of us, to find the most meaningful work possible. This does not mean we all need to be saving babies in Africa or manning the protest lines, but simply doing something that makes others lives better in at least a small way, and feels good to us.
Given the current economy, there will be times when some of us do not have meaningful work. We can create more and more ways to give and receive from one another that are not dependent on a regular “job” and money. (more about this later in the series) . And we are stuck in a job meaningless enough that slacking is appropriate. We can use our time. For instance, maybe you support on online network or do online activism while at work rather than becoming the world Free Cell champion. Or we relax fully at work and save our energy for work that really matters. If you are not in love with your job, work part-time rather than full, to give you more time to both give and enjoy life. If you have to cut back a bit on pot and ice cream, so be it. (I recognize that some seem trapped in lives where it seems they need to work full-time, I both have compassion for this situation, and hope that in this series we give answers that mean you won;t have to live that way.)
Let’s look at what living “beyond slacking” looks like in some specific situations:
The societal paradigm for unemployment is to looks for a job – 30-40-50 hours a week. I can think of few things more demoralizing and less productive. Unless you get a job right away, you will likely experience depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem.
The slacker paradigm is do as little as possible til the unemployment runs out. This is a wasted opportunity. Your community needs you. One of the destructive aspects of unemployment is that people have no place to give and use their skills. This leads to depression even more than fears about money. I recommend that in most situations that we all spend at least 15-20 hours a week doing things we feel good about to make the lives of those around us better, it might be using a specific skill we have, doing 2 days of childcare a week for an overwhelmed single parent, Doing fix-it jobs for those in our community for those who don’t have the skills of the time.There is something each of us can do. You can do this for free or for whatever the other person can pay. We can not let lack of money keep us from giving and receiving from one another. There are whole networks set up where you can give and also meet some of your needs without money. Check out Kindista.org worldwide or gift circles in your area (if you are in the Eugene area, check out Eugene Gift Circles https://eugenegiftcircles.wordpress.com/
If you do need or want paying work, let the people you are serving know you are looking for work. More jobs come through connections than the want ads – especially enjoyable meaningful jobs. You can also do things for others for what
If you are someone who is long term government benefits, likely because holding down a full time job would not be possible for one reason of another, you have a great opportunity to be a blessing to your community. You have time to give probably without huge financial need. Don’t buy into the idea you have nothing to give. or that what you give would not make a difference. Honestly assess what you have to give that would benefit others, and how much you can work in your situation. You don’t have to get a paying job that could threaten your benefits. The network of non-economic exchange, often called the Gift Economy is tailor made for you. As you give to those in your community, you will make a difference for them, and you will feel more connected to others to life. (check the links in the paragraph before this one, We create this more beautiful world when ALL of us give what we can.
Today I heard several excellent people talk about how lack of money and the American dream (big house, car, etc) had affected and still affects their self -esteem. I felt really sad. I had carried that piece of aching guilt, about not having it financially together for many years. Just last March I had an Amazing Grace moment, (“was blind and now I see”) around money, and I now rarely carry that guilt, and I wanted to share with my friends and others, why.
For me that financial guilt was not simple, it had several parts, and the ideas behind it touched on some of my base ideas of what life and the world and myself are. I now see that “I am not living in the middle class” guilt as inaccurate and destructive in so many ways.
One root idea is that money is good, or at least a neutral way of meeting good needs. And if I was only psychologically and spiritually attuned enough, I would find a way to draw money, as much as I want, into my life. part of this idea, is there is enough for everyone to have the money and resources to be rich.
For starters, money is not neutral. there is nothing in the nature of money that is inherently bad, but the way it works in out society has really destructive aspects. A huge part of this has to do with interest. When the government prints money, it takes out a loan and has to pay interest, and then it gives the money to banks, which have to pay more interest, and then gives it to businesses and us, and need to get more interest. Money is like a hungry monster that always needs more. This system will not works in a stable, steady economy, there must be huge growth, or their is lack. And when their is lack, what do businesses and some people do? Hoard money. Why? Everything else in nature degrades, cars degrade, clothes wear out, land is taxed. But money if you have it, increases in value, so if you want to win the game of prosperity, the quickest way to do that is to hoard money, not to pass it around so everyone can use it.
Because of this, we live in a world where there is not enough money, there are winners, there are losers, there is not enough to do around. Intuitively, even if we have been told otherwise, we know this.There actually is enough food, enough housing (if we share and don’t hoard), but as long as these things are tied to money, we are in competition for a limited resource. Is it more moral to have more money? Pretty questionable.
Another inaccurate idea, is the very nature of the American dream. On some level, there is the idea that enough money can make us happy. And there is the idea that a large house for each person or family is “normal, and a root of that happiness. That dream is not sustainable for a majority of people. To have a large separate dwelling and yard, that tales maintenance, and costs to build requires a large enough amount of money (which means more “work” and time , that it causes us to have to overwork, and not have the time to be present, to enjoy what is around, us, to enjoy and really take in each other. We work harder to get a mansion (which is what even our modest houses would be considered in the rest of the world) and all the time and money isolates us and makes us more miserable. Web have other choices with less pace, and more time. and ,ore cooperation that are sustainable and make us happy, If you can’t maintain you own house, time or money wise, does that make you morally inferior? I don;t think so.
Part of the reason this “myth” that everyone who wants can have this financially abundant and wasteful lifestyle even exists is because of the 50’s and 60’s. There was an artificial prosperity in America, based on other countries giving us work and precious resources for almost nothing, and on us believing gas, and coal. and water, would just go on forever with no end. This artificial bubble of prosperity made us believe that we could live inefficient lifestyles where everyone could live like a king. And as reality has come back to balance over the last 5o years, as a nation we feel a collective guilt that we are doing something wrong because we can no longer all or at least mostly live a “middle class” lifestyle. This was a non-sustainable bubble that could never last.
Many of you who are reading this already know this, but once very basic resource needs are met, money is not the biggest determinant of happiness, it is time, connection, and meaning. If we are going to judge or evaluate ourselves in the world, those are the measuring sticks that make sense.
So the outgrowth of this is, if we don’t appear to have enough money, we are not alone, the system we live in sets this up./ We are not bad, we only have to find ways to survive and thrive, If we had fought harder to get money would that mean we are better people? Probably not.
If we can not afford a large middle class house, does that mean we are incompetent or morally inferior? No, maybe we are actually blessed, to find more sustainable ways to live and be happy.
if we do not find safety in our castles, we can find it in mature relationships. We can replace an instant abundance of things, with an abundance of time, experience, and intimacy. The very sharing we will have to do to live well, will bring us the connection that makes us happy.
To build the beautiful world we all dream about, we each need to use our gifts, not like a workaholic, but in balance with an open heart. But the way the world is set up, sometimes we will find a “job” where we can do this, and sometimes we are not. The system is not set up for everyone to be employed, and especially not for everyone to have a meaningful job. If we have one, give thanks, and be generous with our money, but we are not better., If we don’t, give in the ways we can to our community.and we are not less.
One real need that is not addresses for many is economic security. While few of will have to face not eating, to have to leave a home, not by choice is deeply disconnecting. And so we all feel like we have to “make it” and preferably squirrel some away for hard times, we live with a sense of deep insecurity. Traditionally we live in tribes. And security was shared by all. If only the successful hunter ate, the tribe would soon die out. We were not meant to all have to individually financially protect ou9rselves. We need find ways to share profoundly, to invest in the “bank” of our community, allowing that to be the buffer for hard times we all need.
Beneath this is a whole new way of seeing life, of not only believing, but living that we are one as well as being separate, Of choosing what we value, and what is important, of a true prosperity, that we all can really have,
As I continue to help create the sharing economy, I am aware how many pieces are not in place. At one of my workplaces we face a potential layoff, and I watched one of my co-workers from fear. What kind of world is this, if people are doing a great thing in the world, enjoy doing it, but have to stop because “there is not enough money?” I heard several others talk about the constant fear of not having money and not having a home affected them. This reminds me that although I have enjoyed the kind of gifts I have given and received, and watched others give and receive through Eugene Gift Circles, we are not yet where I want us to be.
I vision a community where no one who is willing to give and their skills will ever have to fear homelessness or lack the basics of life.
I vision a world where we can both give and receive out skills whether or not we have the “money” to give us permission to do so.
I vision a world where through sharing our tools and goods and common tasks like childcare, that we have less, pay for less, and experience more prosperity.
I vision a world where the economic “we” of our community is just as important as the I of us an individuals, where we can work for the common good without holding back, cause we know we will have what we need.
I vision a world where there are enough meaningful life giving jobs for everyone who wants one.
I vision a world where hoarding of money or resources becomes very uncool, and unnecessary.
I vision a world where nobody who is not absolutely in love with their job has to work more than 30 hours, and that most people have enough time.
I realize that one error I have made up to this point, is in thinking we just need to ignore money as much as possible. Money is still a part of our world with all its imperfections, and at this point we heed to learn to distribute money to where it is needed.
Other attitudes that will help us build this beautiful world are:
Learning the skills of being with one another, that will allow us to really lean on one another.
Developing the skills of working through conflict positively
Focusing on our real and most important needs and wants, rather than the objects we use to try to fill or avoid our feelings and needs.
Learning to ask and to share our material goods, rather than throwing out or needlessly buyin.
This visions would be wonderfully supported, by having more cheap small housing units Where there is individual space and shared space with others.
What would it take for you to join the sharing economy? What would it take for you to share your resources significantly enough that we all had enough money and basic necessities? What is the next step to profound sharing, almost an economic”tribe”
Please write me and let me know your thoughts. We can create this together!
So in my last post (…More Beautiful World) I talked about the next step into a sharing economy that would really meet our needs. Here I want to get practical. The sharing economy I’m talking about would not be confined to money, there are many ways of giving and receiving resources and getting our needs met, and confining ourselves to monetary exchanges is highly limiting. However, given the world we live in, ignoring money will not work either. I know a number of people who live lightly and have found ways to trade and reduce needs, to where most of their needs are around housing and utilities. So to meet the needs for basic resources and economic security of these folks (and others) we will have to find a way to get money to those who need it and don’t have it.
One of my assumptions is that every person in our economy will contribute in some way. If someone is getting no money from a “job” in the world, my assumption is that they have time and they will be willing to give their time and skill to meeting the needs of other community members. So the question before us is, for people who either because they can’t find paying work that fits for them, or because what they do is tremendously meaningful, and they can not find a way to get paid for that, or maybe especially as we develop our economy, they prefer to work within the community,; How do we get those folks the money or major resources they need to live?
One way would be for some community members who own housing to donate free or very low cost housing. But even in these cases, and in the many other cases where money is needed for basic needs, there is the question of how do we get people to give their money to others, and how does that distribution happen?
I want to propose a couple of models, and to hear your ideas, too.
1. Compassionate Sliding Scale
In this model people would share some of their skills and goods with no desire for return financial or otherwise, and they would have other skills that they would ask market price for (possibly the skills they considered “work” skills), and those who could and felt good about it, would pay fully (or more), but those who did not, would pay only what they felt able to pay. Barter would also be an option if that felt good for both parties. In some exchanges, a service would be exchanged for money just as in the regular economy, but the spirit would be different. I would give you my skill because I care about your well being, and you are a part of my community. And you would give me money because you appreciated me and wanted to contribute to my well being, not because you”owed” it to me. In this model, if you are person who can usually afford to pay, you would have security of knowing if you lost your job or your fortunes changed in other ways, that you would not lose any of your services within the community, You would still get your produce delivered, and your car fixed. You would still be able to see your counselor. This is real social security.
One of the advantages to this model, is that people with modest financial needs would probably have these met as they shared their services, even if these are services that would not be economically feasible to offer as part of the regular economy.
An alternate form of this model is the tipping model where services would be free, but if you had economic resources you would be encouraged to express your appreciation for gifts you received through money as well as other ways. This avoids the issue of what something “costs” but would probably result in less money being passed to those who need it.
2. The Security Pot
Another system would be to fundraise from members within the community who have financial resources and have a pot of money that be drawn upon to meet people’s needs. We would have to talk about what the standards would be for this, how much could be given, how often, etc.
I would tend to have some standards like, the individuals must be using all the government aid that is available to them (some support in applying for that might reduce needs), and that if anyone received financial aid from the community, it would be expected that they would find someway to offer a significant amount of services, to create balance.
3. Open Request
People who had financial needs would be encouraged to ask for those needs to be met, just like all other needs, and people in the community would respond as they felt moved. This system in the simplest, but also I am guessing would provide the least actual economic security.
I would love to hear your feedback on these models and others you can come up with. Both just your general opinion of the models, and how these models would work for you, with the economic conditions in your life.
So I continue to think how to create a sharing economy that would really change the paradigm of our culture, that would really change people’s life experiences. One thing I see is that the fear of not having one’s basic needs met is a HUGE sapper of joy and peace, a cause of anxiety, a feeling that encourages people to take less chances and be more willing to compromise their soul and their passions for a “good job” and monetary security.
The fact that sometimes people’s basic needs aren’t met is a large problem, but the fear that I would guess 80% of the people in our society carry is gargantuan.
What happens if we could address that fear, and specifically address it within a larger sharing, cooperative economy? This would change people’s lives.
So here is one way to do it. Take a sharing community, like Kindista.org and Gift Circles in Eugene, or like time banks in other cities. Being active in this group would automatically make you a member of the local USS (ultimate social security) group. Members of USS would be able to receive funds to help them make it through hard times. and in return they would find ways to contribute to (work for) their community. (Note resources could be shared such as housing, but given the state of our economy, right now, this is a level best addressed by money.)
You would have to apply to receive USS money – and you would receive it if you addressed these guidelines –
1. You must have been an active part of the network for at least 6 months.
2. You would need to receiving any state aid that you are eligible for (Note: I work helping people fined resources, and this step with a knowledgeable resource person to help would mean some would not need money from the community, and others would need less than they thought)
3. You would need to have a plan for how you would use your time to benefit the community, You would have to offer skills you had and meet needs that others wanted met.
4. USS aid would be limited to 25% of the time you are been a member of this network. So if you were a member for 2 years, you could get up to 6 months of aid. If you were almost finished with your allotted time and had no prospects, a circle would be called for people to support you and help you find a place of economic balance. If this was an exceptional situation, some individuals may be willing to support you beyond the 6 month limit.
What this system would do is mean that no one in the group goes hungry or without a place to live because their community will help catch them. It would create a sense of safety, and deep connection and gratitude for one;s community. People would be freed to be their best selves and the energy freed from worry would help them give to their community more powerfully.
So what would this cost, and how would be the fund be raised?
Lets say we have 100 people involved. There would be no claims for the first 6 months. After than say 5% of the people are using these funds at any one time, maybe 8% during times of extreme financial scarcity on the larger society. (I think these numbers might be high. I think the simple fact that people had this safety net available might motivate them to need it and use it less)
So say we are talking 5% (5 people out of our group of 100, and on the average, each person needs $300 a month. That means we will payout $15oo a month, and we would probably need to reward those who coordinate this program (although their might be some alternatives to money. But for now let’s say we pay this person $500 to manage this program part time each month. For $2,000 a month, 100 people will have their fear of losing basic resources deeply reduced, and their sense of connection to their community deeply enhanced.
We could raise the funds for this, by suggesting to a few large donors that this is a great way to change the world, and encouraging community members who are doing well in terms of money, to donate monthly. $24,000a year is not a large amount to provide financial security for 100 people.
I would love to hear your feedback on this idea, and any ways to make it better, We can make something like this happen
NEW YEARS RESOLUTIONS TO BUILD A SHARING ECONOMY WHERE WE ALL GET OUR NEEDS MET!
(adopt any that fit for you)
Before I buy, I will ask myself if this is something I can borrow, or get from my community
I will work to fulfill my real emotional needs and not use things to try to cover them up (no more ice cream for love)
I will value time at least as much as I value money and physical goods
I will have enough time to enjoy my life this year
(for the un- and under employed) I will work (X) hours a week making life better for my community, instead of feeling empty with no place to give
I will figure out what I really want and need
I will spend more time helping people and less time “looking for work” (this will probably help me get a paying job faster!)
I will believe my needs can really get met and that I deserve to have them met
I will ask others to meet my needs and wants, even if I am scared or embarrassed
I will practice gratefulness towards life and others and myself, daily
I will find a way to give the gift I most want to give to the world
I will say yes and no freely, with no shame
I will share my surplus, and let my community be my security
I will move closer to those who I love, and whom I can share companionship and resources with
I will create a life style where I only have to work part-time
If conflict (or my fear of it) keeps me from getting close, I will develop the skills to gracefully deal with disagreement
The path to a joyous, abundant, connected world is right in front of us. If each one of us spent 25 hours a week (or more if that gave you joy) using our greatest gifts meeting the needs of those around us, and making the world a better place, and we shared our resources, we would have more than we needed, we would work in passion. If enough of us do this we will turn our corner of the world into the Garden of Eden.
So what is the path to getting there? If you are unemployed. You are unemployed no more. Decide you have a 25 hour a week job making the lives of others around you, better, and making the world a better place. You can connect with gift circles or online gifting tools like Kindista.org. Or you can informally look at needs around you and simply offer to meet them, or find aligned non-profits and righteous organizations and volunteer your time. And them you can ask for others to meet your needs, the same way you are giving and see what comes back. You may still need to find a “job” but in my experience, using my best gifts, and letting others know I am looking is much more effective (and fulfilling) then sending out resume’s and pouring over Craig;s List.
If you are one of those folks whose paying work is using your greatest gifts to do good in the world, Rock on! If you doing someway between OK and great financially, find ways to spend money to meet your needs through other good people who love what they are doing rather than faceless corporations. If you have excess, give it to people around you, either people who give to you, or others who are doing good things in the world. Quoting the musical Hello Dolly, “Money is like manure, it is only worth something when you spread it around,”
If you feel stuck doing a job that is not your passion just to make ends meet, then look for ways you can receive from others around you in ways that can save you money and time. Gift Circles and Kindista are great for this. Look for areas where you spend money on things trying to fill up emotional holes, and actually get those emotional needs met by your community. Use the freed up resources to work less at your current job, and spend that time giving to others in a way that you love.
People are doing this now. The more of us who live this way, the more we give and receive from one another in love, the more our world is becoming the one we dream of.